Of course you can use any words that you desire. The above prayers are just a simple suggestion, but I’m sure you get the idea.

A sense of positive intention and love from your heart will help you through the easy process.

If ever, after you’ve done this, you start to feel angry again…just let it go…like a stormy cloud moving through your mind and heart…just let it pass and allow the sunshine to fill your whole being up again.

May the healing you desire manifest into your life easily.

Blessings Always,
Dr. Michelle

This may seem a ridiculous question but it is genuine….how do I “bless” someone?? If I am to “bless” the ex, is it with words, or thoughts, or…?. I dont underatand how to do this.
“completely forgive”…I do understand this and the processes I need to do this from other experiences in my life and… “let go of the feelings” I also understand the processes to do but “surrender your pain to God”??? I want to do these things but I dont think i know how, I havent done this before. I hear these phrases and people change their lives by them and the like but I dont know how to surrender my pain to God? Pls help, if its at all possible to put into words I’d be most grateful. Sorry to take up more of your time xx

Have you ever thought about the possibility that your wonderful baby boy actually chose you both to be his Mom and Dad (at the very least for the DNA of it) and that’s why you were so drawn to continuing to be with your boyfriend even though you knew he really wasn’t good for you? Yes, this is true. The baby souls in heaven always pick their parents, for better or worse, to learn what they need to learn. Your precious baby boy loves you. He’s filled with so much unconditional Divine Love that he desires to give to you, so that you can learn how to become unconditionally love and forgiving too.

Logically and emotionally you have a right to be ticked off, but you can’t hold this against yourself, or your ex any longer.

Take a good look at your beautiful baby boy. I’m sure that by now you can’t imagine, even in your wildest dreams, what your life would be like without him! Without your ex and you being together, for his conception, he would never have been born. Let’s thank your ex for his sperm donation and leave it at that.

Now it’s time to move forward with your own life. The first step in the process is to completely forgive, surrender your pain to God, and let go of the feelings of revenge that you have. In fact, if you want to really bless your own life, and the life of your child, then bless your ex for moving out of your life so that you can find someone else, someone much better, to come into your life that will make you both very happy!

Stop blaming yourself. Stop thinking so much about what other people think or expect from you. Just keep yourself positively focused on your beautiful baby boy. He truly is your saving grace. You have more unconditional love coming from him then you’ve ever had from anyone in your whole life! He loves YOU and in his heart this is all he needs right now.

You are a wonderful loving person. You already have a normal family. Just you and your baby are the foundation of the new family that you have created. Focus forward on positive improvements and what you truly desire for the both of you, but for now, this moment, just count your blessings, with all your heart, that you and your son are together in a Divine connection that no one can break. Don’t spend anymore precious time, time you could be cuddling and playing with your son, dwelling on negative things. You don’t have any more time for that!

When you feel like you’re a bit depressed…go and hug your son again and again and again. Take a good look in his eyes and know, without a doubt, that he chose YOU to be his Mom. BE the best Mom that you can be!

It’s time to let go of the rubbish. Delete that word out of your vocabulary. Replace it with understanding, compassion, and love.

Good Luck!
Dr. Michelle

I Feel very self absorbed to be asking for help for this problem but here goes. My partner left me at 7 months pregnant to get with another woman. I now have a wonderful baby and I desperately want to move on and make a new life for me and my child but Im still so consumed with anger towards this man. I cant help but want to punish him and i feel so guilty for choosing him to be my babys Father. I need to pull myself together and let it go, he was a rubbish boyfriend and we were very incompatible HOWEVER im still stuck asking useless questions like where, how, why etc when i know this is worthless as it is over. Im so busy hoping that his life is awful that I am making my own life awful. That is a terrible, stupid way to be. I know i shouldnt wish people bad luck, especially my baby’s Father. I just want to be happy, do u know a way I can start to move forward and away from all this rubbish that goes round and round in my head? Im worried im just the kind of person that cant/wont ever have a normal “family” and I dont think its fair of me to of had a baby if this is the case. I feel Ive brought him into a rubbish life : ( xx

First of all I want to highly commend you on being a member of such a special team that helps people in times of airport disasters. Let’s keep our fingers crossed that you, and your other team mates, won’t have to go to too many of those. We all pray for anyone who is flying to be truly safe and sound. But, when disasters do occur it’s sure good to know that people like you are on the team!

Now, onto your questions. Yes, a Scorpio, like you, should always listen to your intuition. If you’re feeling an urge to be prepared, then you should be. You are a very organized Scorpio indeed having 31/4 as your destiny number. - You can learn more about this at the numerology section on my website here - but I don’t want you to “think about the worst thing that can happen, just in case it happens, so that you’re prepared” - yes it’s good to be prepared but often Scorpio’s, all Scorpio’s, will think this way and actually attract negative situations into their lives through their own powerful, very powerful, thoughts. Being prepared is good, but don’t let it consume you. I feel that you are ready to help out, you’ve been waiting so long to help, and just wanting to be of help is definitely part of your calling in life.

You are also at a special time of your life, your current cycle of life, when you want to help anyone, not just at the airport, that may be in need of your assistance.
Your plan to retire, so that you can personally have more time to do your own thing, is very important to you. It is very good that you are planning your retirement for the 62 - 65 year old time frame. You are an energetic Scorpio, so even being of that Earth age (which is just a number really) you’re going to feel like a youthful 50 something personality.

Keep on taking really good care of yourself so that your later years will be, and I know that they will, quite remarkable!

Blessings Always,
Dr. Michelle

Thank you ever so kindly for your encouraging words! I was afraid for a minute there that you too would think that I’d “jumped from the frying pan into the fire” ( my sister’s words :/ ). I glad YOU are able to see past the “book cover” and see MY story to know and give me credit for doing what I knew was best. I thought it took a great deal of courage for me to act on that inner compulsion and I told my sister, in my most positive attitude, that even if I did land in the flames that like the Phenox I would still emerge!

Sometimes I am sad but I know that the sadness stems from the time I’d spent there. Your co-workers sort of become like family and that’s what I miss. The people I used to see on a daily basis. But none the less, my decision was the best and I know this because other then missing my co-workers, I miss nothing else.

I know there is a purpose in all things, even the bad situations that cross our path. And I still wish my manager nothing but the very best dispite her actions. I probably will never know what brought her behavior on but I do hope that she finds peace and contentment with whatever it may have been. I also know that being a manager is not an easy job and the work load can be unbearable at times, but it doesn’t excuse her behavior. I do forgive her but I am glad to be free of it and I am proud of myself for handling things the way I did.

Thank you for the “upcoming birthday wishes!!” I’m excited but at the same time also a little nervous lol because I know there’s an (gulp) eclipse on “MY” Birthday. I’ve been reading about it and I’m praying it’s a good thing since I read this eclipse was about some sort of endings. ( gulps again ) I know I shouldn’t worry because I’ve put nothing but good karma out, so hopefully it will return to me!

I’ve been reading your site for a long time now Michelle and you help soooo many with their situations and life in general that it amazes me. Most times I don’t write anything at all I just read because others have situations that are so simular to what I may be experiencing and your advice is always right on time. You are truly one special human being. I wish I could work for YOU! (smile) Ok or someone “like you” because you are so understanding I’d soooo like that a lot!! (smile)I will take your advice about the best time for my job search! Hopefully, and I have a lot of faith, that something RIGHT FOR ME will come along soon!!

Thanks again Michelle!
You are truly the best!

I totally understand that you needed time to detox. Oh yes, you still have some time to detox so be patient, keep on putting your resume’s out there, and relax. The very best time for you to move forward into a new career will be after your upcoming birthday - “Happy Upcoming Birthday!” You are going to be moving into a brand new, and more powerful, cycle of your life that can bring you much SUCCESS!

Mercury, the planet of communication, IS in your sign and will be going back into direct motion on 12/13 - so after this date you should begin to really start to see some improvements in regards to almost everything in your life.

It IS important that you keep UP your positive attitude! Keep on listening to that ’still small voice’ within you (no matter how much other people may give you their opinions) because it’s your own intuition that is definitely helping you to move into a new position that WILL BE so much better for you! Oh Yes, your happiness is very important. When you are happy then other people will be happier too AND your financial abundance will grow and grow.

When you love what you do then you’ll be very financial prosperous too!

Don’t feel bad about your decision. Again, no one should have to be abused, whether at work or in their personal relationships, for ANY reason. I’m surprised that you kept your cool for as long as you did! You handled everything very professionally - by giving them your 2 weeks notice - a lot of people in your position might not have done this.

So, in a nutshell, everything should become so much better for you in the not too distant future.

Focus positively on what you desire to attract into your life. Hold your head up high and know that your special skills, and your great personality, will be a great benefit for the new company that hires you!

Many Blessings Always,
Dr. Michelle

I am a sagittarian born Dec. 10, 1972 in Plainfield N.J @ 4pm ( remember me :)) I had a question concerning a job that I quit (without a backup ) after almost 12 years on Oct. 28th, 2011.

My family and friends all thought I was nuts to leave a job after being there for so long and I must admit that while I handed in my resignation I was thinking the exact same thing. But deep down I knew, or rather FELT, that it was the best posible thing I could do for myself considering the condition I was working under. And actually, I think I’d been coming to this very decision for a little over a year to be honest.

You see, my manager and I had been butting heads off and on for more then two years. I tried hard to smile and bare it for as long as I could, but it had gotten to the point where I HATED to get up and go to work in the morning to a job that I’d once loved. I don’t know if it was something that she was going through personally or if she simply just didn’t like “me”. All I know is that almost overnight her entire treatment of me changed. She is also a sagittarian, born Dec. 20th ( not sure of anything else )But it got to the point where I was feeling “bullied”. She began talking down to me and pointing out little silly things that should not have mattered like different ways I wore my hair to how many pens I used or handwriting or ANYTHING it seemed. There were others that noticed this also but I felt alone in dealing with it because no one ever seemed to come to my defence. And as far as my boss goes, she would simply go into his office, close the door and give him “her version” of what was going on and he would go with whatever she said and my side was never considered. That was very hurtful for me because I felt like I’d been there so long that I would at least have some kind of say. But I suppose just because I was the receptionist/secretary my thoughts or complaints were redundant. I used to cry alot because I’d seen her talk down to me about things that others where doing also but she’d never talk to them the way she’d talked rudely towards me. For a very long time I’d tried to stay in the positive because I really did like the job and the people. It was a pleasant place to work (when she wasn’t there and i wasn’t the only one who felt that way ). There where others there also that had quit because of the way she was treating them ( or rather the way she “spoke” to them because she could be very rude, blunt and unfeeling towards their feelings )
But on this particular day she was even worse and I just couldn’t take it anymore. I felt the best thing I could do FOR ME was get the heck out of there or loose my temper and patients with her. So I quit the professional way and gave them my two week notice. BEST THING I think I’ve ever done for myself and my sanity. They got me a big good luck cake on my last day there and I think she was “a little sorry ” to see me go because she’d given me the silent treatment the whole two weeks, slamming things on my desk ect. sighs…Anyway, after the cake and hugs and good lucks ect, they thought I would stay the whole day but as soon as all that was done, I could not help but RUN out of that building. I just felt so …FREE. I didn’t have to cry anymore, I didn’t have to experience headaches just thinking about that place anymore or anything. Financially I was okay because I’d managed to hold on to a good amount and the whole month of November all I did was simply sleep. I had been soooo tired and worn out from all the emotions and stress I’d been either ignoring or holding in for so long that the flood gates just opened up. I had never felt so worn out in my life.

My friends and family thought I should try to find work right away, but they didn’t understand that I had to “detox” myself from that place first. I truly needed a BIG rest for my very own soul sake. And i am now just beginning to feel MUCH better about myself and my decision. Some days I wonder if it was the right thing to do, but when I began to wonder like that something else deep down inside me confirms that I did make the decision that was best considering. I have skills and faith that I will find another job, I was just wondering when the BEST time is to start looking. I’ve already sent resume’s and signed with temp agencys, but I’ve only JUST started to do these things. I hadn’t the energy before, but I have in droves now. Can you help me?